What love has meant to me lately.

I am no expert at this subject, but fortunately I have learned from many godly couples both younger and older.

And after reading, “When sinners say I do”, I was thrown back at the fact that I think I have had it wrong my whole life.

Most of my younger and teenage life, I was told to make a list of things that I want in a wife and look for that. Find this girl who matches up to every little thing that I want. And even everything doesn’t match up, but most, well that’s ok. And so I would go on to do that, and make this list and it went something like this…

1) Beautiful.

2) Christian.

3) Great personality.

4) Likes to sing and/or play piano.

5) A woman who can cook.

6) Great body.

7) Someone funny.

8) Someone who will support me and be a good wife.

9) Someone who has good fashion style.

10) Someone who will serve me.

So that was my list. It’s basically a list of “I wants”

Was I wrong or what? After reading this book, and observing many marriages after my move to MN, I realized that I had it ALL wrong. It’s not about who can I find that will fit my needs and that will take care of me and will just fit right into the mold and idea that I have for a wife. First off,  It’s about finding a woman that realizes that she is a sinner and realizes that we’re both going to make mistakes EVERY day. Yes, maybe some days will be amazing, some not so amazing, but God’s grace is the only thing that will keep us in love, not each other. Yes, there are things that we do to show each other that we love each other like hugging, comforting, sharing, loving, kissing, praying, etc, but ultimately God is the key to upholding any relationship, and marriage.

I’m a sinner. I’m going to screw up everyday. So how messed up is that I would go try and find a perfect girl who doesn’t screw up at all and that in my head has to do everything right to fit my plan when that is an impossibility. We are all sinners and we do really bad things. We think awfully prideful thoughts against each other. We think we’re better than the other person in most arguments and so on..

Finally, it’s about finding a wife that you can serve. Not about whether she’s hot, smart, sweet, dresses nice, cooks well, or is brunette or blonde…it’s about finding a woman who knows she’s an awful sinner and she would be nothing without God’s grace, and finding a woman who you can genuinely serve with your whole life. Meaning serve as a husband spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

One of the points of this post is to say that I am no more looking for a woman that fits my list of things.

I am searching for a woman who loves Jesus with a burning, evident passion. And one who would allow me to serve her with my life.