Feb 08
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A friend gave this list to me 3 years ago.

A friend gave this list to me 3 years ago. It doesn’t guarantee no problems in a relationship, I have realized that as of late, but I’m sure most guys could learn from this…especially those who have wives.

108 Ways for a Husband to Offend His Wife

  1. Ignoring Her.
  2. Not valuing her opinions.
  3. Showing more attention to other people than her.
  4. Not listening to her or not understanding what she feels.
  5. Closing her out by not talking or listening to her. (The silent treatment)
  6. Being easily distracted when she’s trying to talk to you.
  7. Not scheduling special time to be with her.
  8. Not being open to talk about things that you do not understand.
  9. Not being open to talk about things that she does not understand.
  10. Not giving her a chance to voice her opinion on decisions that affect the whole family.
  11. Discipling her by being angry angry or silent.
  12. Making jokes about areas of her life.
  13. Making sarcastic statements about her.
  14. Insulting her in front of others.
  15. Coming back with quick retorts.
  16. Giving harsh admonitions.
  17. Using careless words before you thing through how they will affect her.
  18. Nagging her in harshness.
  19. Rebuking her before giving her a chance to explain a situation.
  20. Raising your voice at her.
  21. Making critical comments with no logical basis.
  22. Swearing or using foul language when around her.
  23. Correcting her in public.
  24. Being tactless when pointing out her weaknesses or blind spots.
  25. Reminding her angrily that you warned her not to do something.
  26. Having disgusted or judgmental attitudes.
  27. Pressuring her when she is already feeling low or offended.
  28. Lecturing her when she needs to be comforted, encouraged, or treated gently.
  29. Breaking promises with any explanation or without asking to be released from the promise.
  30. Telling her how wonderful other women are and comparing her to other women.
  31. Holding resentment about something she did and tried to make it right.
  32. Coercing her into an argument.
  33. Correcting or punishing her in anger for something for which she’s not guilty.
  34. Being disrespectful to her family or relatives.
  35. Not praising her for something she did well, even if she did it for you.
  36. Treating her like a little child.
  37. Being rude to her or other people in public, like restaurant personnel or clerks.
  38. Being unaware of her needs.
  39. Being ungrateful.
  40. Not trusting her.
  41. Not approving of what she does or how she does it.
  42. Not being interested in her own personal growth.
  43. Being inconsistent  or having double standards (doing thing you won’t allow her to do).
  44. Not giving her advice when she really need it and asks for it.
  45. Not telling her that you love her.
  46. Having prideful and arrogant attitudes in general.
  47. Not giving daily encouragement.
  48. Failing to include her in the conversation when you are with other people.
  49. Failing to spend quality time with her when you’re at a party.
  50. Talking her down.
  51. Ignoring her around the house as if she wasn’t a member of the family.
  52. Not listening to what she believes is important as soon as you come home from work.
  53. Ignoring her at social gatherings.
  54. Not attending church as a family.
  55. Failing to express honestly what you think her innermost feelings are.
  56. Showing more excitement for work and other activities that for her.
  57. Being impolite at mealtime.
  58. Having sloppy manners around the house and in front of others.
  59. Not inviting her out on special romantic dates from time to time, just the two of you.
  60. Not helping her with the children just before mealtimes or during times of extra stress.
  61. Not volunteering to help her with the dishes or cleaning the house.
  62. Making her feel stupid when she shares an idea about your work or decisions that need to be made.
  63. Making her feel unworthy for desiring certain furniture or insurance or other material needs for herself and the family.
  64. Not being consistent with the children; not taking an interest in playing with them and spending quality time and quantity time with them.
  65. Not showing public affection for her, like holding her hand or putting your arm around her. (seemingly embarrassed to be with her)
  66. Not sharing your life with her, like work, your ideas or your feelings.
  67. Not being the spiritual leader of the home.
  68. Demanding that she submit to you.
  69. Demanding that she be involved with you sexually, when you are not in harmony.
  70. Being unwilling to admit you were wrong.
  71. Resisting whenever she shares one of your blind spots.
  72. Being too busy with work and activities.
  73. Not showing compassion and understanding for her and the children when there is real need.
  74. Throwing money away and not saving, making her feel very insecure.
  75. Being stingy with money, making her feel like she’s being paid a salary.
  76. Wanting to do things that embarrass her sexually.
  77. Forcing her to make decisions regarding the checkbook and bills.
  78. Forcing her to handle overdue bills.
  79. Not letting her lean on your gentleness and strength from time to time.
  80. Not allowing her to fall—always feeling like you have to lecture her.
  81. Refusing to let her be a woman.
  82. Criticizing her womanly characteristics or sensitivity  as being weak.
  83. Spending too much money and getting the family too far into debt.
  84. Not having a sense of humor and not joking about things together.
  85. Not telling her how important she is to you.
  86. Not sending her special love letters from time to time.
  87. Forgetting special dates like anniversaries and birthdays.
  88. Not defending her when somebody else is tearing her down, especially if it’s family or relatives.
  89. Not putting your arm around her and hugging her when she needs comfort.
  90. Being dishonest.
  91. Discouraging her for trying to better herself, either through education or physical fitness.
  92. Continuing distasteful or harmful habits, like coming home drunk.
  93. Taking her for granted, assuming that a woman’s work is never done around the house.
  94. Not including her in future plans until the last minute.
  95. Never doing little unexpected things for her.
  96. Not treating her like an intellectual equal.
  97. Being preoccupied with your own goals and needs, making her feel like she and the children don’t count.
  98. Threatening never to let her do something again because she’s made mistakes in the past.
  99. Criticizing her behind her back. Even more painful when she hears it from someone else.
  100. Blaming her for things in your relationship that are clearly your failure.
  101. Losing patience or getting angry with her when she can’t keep up with your stamina or schedule.
  102. Failing to repair items around the house.
  103. Watching too much tv and therefore neglecting the family.
  104. Humiliating her with words that pierce and hurt, rather than show grace.
  105. Not taking the time to prepare her to enjoy sexual intimacy.
  106. Taking vacations that appeal to your liking rather than the rest of the family.
  107. Not letting her get away from the children so she can be with friends , go shopping, go out for coffee, etc.
  108. Not understanding or helping out with the countless chores and responsibilities around the house.